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Projection 101

Something that those with what are known in the psychology world as cluster B personality disorders, particularly Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Antisocial Personality Disorder, which is the designation for psychopaths and sociopaths, have in common with people of a particular political persuasion is a tendency towards projection.

What is projection? I’ve touched briefly on it here before, describing it as when someone accuses someone else of what they themselves are guilty of in order to deflect blame and attention away from themselves and onto their opposition.

But it goes beyond that. People of the above mindset are wired in such a way that they are pathologically incapable of even beginning to fathom that other people are different — with different morals, different values, different moral limits, different patterns of thought — than themselves, and so they feel perfectly justified in projecting their own guilt onto others. After all, what they’re accusing you of is exactly what they would do in your situation, and so you must secretly be guilty, too. They’re just exposing what in their minds is true.

This is destructive enough on an individual level when applied to interpersonal relationships. But when a large group of people who think this way get together, combine their resources, and attain power over those who don’t think this way, things get really dangerous. Then you begin to see entire groups of people maligned for evils they would never even think of committing — and not only maligned, but punished for them.

One fortunate thing for us normals is that people with this mindset can’t help but expose themselves and their true nature by the things they accuse others of doing or  being. They tell us exactly what they would do if they were in their opponents’ position, incapable of comprehending that most of those they’re lumping together simply want to live their lives in peace, get along with others, and be free to provide for themselves and their families as they see fit. Violent people see violence all around them and expect violence from others. Disloyal people see disloyalty all around them and expect disloyalty from others. Insert your sociopathic quality here and repeat, ad nauseum.

Conversely, kind and considerate people tend to see kindness and consideration and to expect it from others, and are shocked when they’re met with unkindness and lack of consideration, and with false accusations and unjust maligning of character. It shakes us off our foundation and leaves us floundering as we try to make sense of what just happened — which is why it’s such an effective tactic that the narcopath returns to again and again. See also: gaslighting

Maya Angelou famously said, when people tell you who they are, listen to them. It’s time to listen and pay attention.

It would not be the worst idea in the world, if you have time, to educate yourself about narcissists and psychopaths and the way these people think, as well as the tactics they use to manipulate, control, and get their way. On YouTube, Richard Grannon, Dr. Ramani, and the Surviving Narcissism channel are all good places to start.

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We’re living in perilous times, friends. I wish I had some encouragement. But one of the best things we can do, besides pray, is arm ourselves with discernment skills and learn to exercise prudence.

Yesterday, during Bible study, this thought occurred to me — that God is going to allow things to get really bad before they get better, because these latter generations, who have lived our lives in relative ease and comfort, need to be exposed first-hand to true evil and see for ourselves what it’s capable of and what happens when sin and lawlessness are allowed to go unchecked. This life is our inoculation against evil, so that we will be immune to it in the afterlife. And we’re all about to get a big dose.

But the righteous will be saved by faith. Habbakuk first said it, and Paul repeated it multiple times. What makes us righteous? Not our works or our morals or our human virtue. Nothing inherent in us. Only faith in Jesus Christ, who covers us with his righteousness.

The Lord knows them that are his, and he is in the boat with us, our rock and our refuge, our shelter in times of trouble. He will see us through the storm.

Some Thoughts About the Current State of Things

Image by Taylor Burnett from Pixabay

I mentioned in Monday’s post how one of the hallmarks of 2020 was constantly battling the feeling of cognitive dissonance from watching plots of dystopian sci-fi and horror movies from my youth play out in real life. Yesterday and this morning, I’m experiencing that feeling in spades.

Having grown up with a narcissistic parent, I’ve learned well how to recognize when I’m being gaslit, manipulated, bullied, and outright lied to. Things in our nation and culture have devolved to such a point that this is now happening daily, on both sides. Those who report and commentate on the news seem to be divided into those who are knowingly participating in the lying and gaslighting and those who are naive and deceived enough to go along with the narrative. It’s hard to know what, or who, to believe, and right now I feel like nobody’s telling the whole truth.

Just an aside: another hallmark of narcissists and psychopaths is projection — that is, accusing others of what they themselves are guilty of in order to deflect blame away from themselves. In my observations, the people who shout the loudest accusations are usually the most guilty of those things which they’re accusing others of doing or thinking. Narcopaths always tattle on themselves. Never forget that.

At any rate, I don’t know what to think about the events that unfolded yesterday, or what to believe. I do know, now that the dust has settled a bit, that the events at the Capitol disrupted the proceedings just in time to prevent Cruz and Hawley, et al, from formally making their protests, and put an end to all debate about the veracity of the election outcome. Upon reflection, it seems like the only ones who benefited from those shenanigans were Biden and the Left. If it was indeed Trump supporters who led the charge, they undermined everything their side claimed to desire and destroyed all future hopes of a political future for the President as well as ensuring that, at best, no one will ever take their side seriously again, and at worse, that all Trump supporters will be branded as crazies and terrorists.

I want to share two videos for your consideration, and I suggest you watch them quickly before they’re removed. The first is only a minute long. I’m not sure who this guy is or where the footage was obtained, or even if he’s telling the truth, but I don’t find his claims hard to believe.

The second is longer, around 45 minutes, but I urge you to make time to watch it. I find this woman extremely credible and, as crazy as everything she’s saying would have sounded a year ago, after 2020, it’s all completely believable to me.

(Update: YouTube already took the second video down. I’ve replaced it with a copy from Vimeo. If that should disappear as well, here’s a link to watch it on Bitchute.)

Like I told my husband last night, life in our present age feels a lot like how it felt growing up with an alcoholic narcissist — never able to relax, always bracing for the next crazy thing, never sure what to believe, wondering if I’m the one who’s crazy.

And yet, through it all, I have a deep, abiding sense of peace. I have peace because, in the midst of all the lying and gaslighting, I have the objective, absolute truth of God’s word as an anchor. I know that the Creator of the universe is sovereign over all of His creation, that He installs governments, raises up their leaders and removes them as He sees fit. I know that He has a plan, and that His plans always prevail, and that nothing happens that He doesn’t allow, and that He works ALL things together for ultimate good, and in the end, nobody’s going to get away with anything.

And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. –Romans 8:28 (NASB)

We can’t trust our media, we can’t trust our government, and we can’t trust our politicians. Put your trust in God, and in Jesus Christ his Son. They will never fail you.

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